Monday, May 20, 2013

Day Twenty // On Edge

Today I'm feeling a little bit like G.I. Jane. I saw these pants at Old Navy this weekend while I was checking out their clearance rack, and I had to have them. But while I was putting the outfit together, none of my shoes looked quite right with them. But then I realized that if I was going to be wearing these pants, of course I should be wearing my pink heels with them. This is just another example of putting your own style and twist into every outfit. While I wish I could pull off a super edgy look, and maybe wear some of those wedge sneakers, that's just not me. But a pair of dainty pink shoes and a feminine top? Now that I can do. [And sorry about my crazy hair--it's been so windy lately!]






Top & Sunnies: Forever 21 [old] // Pants: Old Navy [similar] // Shoes: Charlotte Russe [similar] // Bag: Marshalls

Day 20 [yay! almost done!] of the Blog Every Day in May challenge is: Get real. Share something you're struggling with right now.

I said in one of my posts last week that I didn't want to talk about negative things on my blog. That I wanted to focus on the positive. However, a huge part of blogging is being vulnerable, honest, and open with your readers. I read a lot of blogs, but sometimes they just seem too perfect. They post pictures in their overly-expensive clothes, talk about all the amazing trips they go on, and about their wonderful jobs. And while that's all fine and dandy, I don't feel like I can ever really connect to them--they don't seem like real people to me. So I really love when I come across blogs that share real problems or struggles.

Something that I struggle with is knowing how to take criticism. I have never been one to take criticism well, espcially if it's "constructive." Because if it's just someone being rude about me or my blog, I can usually shake it off. But when it's someone that loves me who is giving me criticism, I get very easily offended. Even if H tells me I shouldn't be talking bad about someone, or if my mom tells me that a certain skirt doesn't look great on my body type, I shut down and choose to get offended. But guess what? It's a choice. One of my absolute favorite quotes is: Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it. And that is so true! When someone criticizes you, [whether it is constructive criticism or not] take that criticism to heart. Most of the time, when I get offended about something, it's because at least some small part of it is true. So really take a step back and see how you can make yourself better. You don't have to get offended by the things that people say to you, especially when they are trying to help you. You wouldn't want someone else to get offended if you were trying to help them be better, would you?

Now obviously, the advice I'm giving you you [and to myself] is a lot easier said than done. Obviously--or I wouldn't still be struggling with it! But I think that we all have a lot to learn, so when someone older and/or wiser gives us a little bit of advice, [even if it may hurt a little] we should learn to accept it with gratitude. We should always be focused on trying to improve ourselves.

Hope you all had a great weekend!! And don't forget that today is the last day to enter my giveaways! [HERE and HERE.]

xoxo,
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10 comments:

  1. I can completely relate to you girl, I'm the worst at taking criticism. Even if people are trying to help me out, I still get offended. Thanks for opening up and being vulnerable with us :)

    xo, Ainslee

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  2. Love your honesty. I read a lot of bloggers who say their scared to share their feelings on their blog, but I find it refreshing!

    Also, love that top! So feminine and beautiful!

    xo, Jessica

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  3. First of all, I completely understand what you mean. It is so hard when criticism comes from family. And I agree about trying to open up a bit blogging. I definitely share bits of my life here and there because that is part of what makes me, me. Love this look by the way. That blouse is perfect with those pants. And LOVE your hair!

    Amy


    Fashion and Beauty Finds

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  4. loving your purse and fun sleeves.

    thanks for sharing yourself a bit. i love when blogs are real. if you see how much feedback a real post gets rather than an outfit post, it goes to show that others agree. love your quote about reacting as well!
    kw ladies in navy

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  5. Okay, I am LOVING those pants! Also your hair, DARLING!
    I also struggle with the criticism thing... I feel like I try so hard sometimes and put so much into things and then when all I want to hear is how great it was and all my hard work paid off, someone rains on my parade ha. I feel ya girl!!
    XOXO
    dani
    Love Me, Dani Marie

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  6. i love the bag and shoes, so pretty!

    Plane Pretty sent me!

    Amanda S

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  7. Such a cute shirt!! And I totally understand where you are coming from!!

    Stopping by from Plane Pretty Blog! (:

    Alyssa

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  8. Love your blog and style!
    Newest follower here :)

    --Allie
    http://lunavida23.blogspot.com/

    PS: Plane Pretty sent me!

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  9. I'm so old, when you say "GI Jane" I think of Demi Moore with a buzzed head: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119173/

    Wow, that was 16 years ago. I am old!

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  10. I just stumbled on this post this evening and it is finding me at just the right time. I think you are doing a GREAT job of being a relatable blogger - and I feel that your are a genuine, kind-hearted woman just from how you blog. My hope is that readers will find my blog to be the same way. Thanks for inspiring me every day!

    xoxo, Steph
    www.whitecoatwardrobe.com

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